"...'colorblind' childrearing may not be the way to go".
Today I would like to share with you an article from usatoday.com. As you can guess from the title the article addresses raising children, especially transracially adopted children, to be colorblind.
"'Colorblindness actually creates discordance,' Samuels says, because parents set their children up to believe that race doesn't matter — until the children find that often race is an issue in the real world and they aren't prepared for it."
I could not agree more. As I mentioned in a previous post, I cannot fathom having to try to explain to my innocent child that people will judge her and possibly not like her only because of the color of her skin. It makes me cringe and tear thinking about this imminent discussion, but I know it must be done. It is better for her to find out from her loving mother in a loving way than to learn about it from a racist someone in a hateful way. It is better she be prepared and taught how to react and deal.
"'Adapting and understanding of equality doesn't require sameness, so for family members to be able to relate to one another, we don't have to be the same,' says Samuels, who is part black; her adoptive mother was white. 'We can be racially different and we can see the world and experience the world differently.'"
Yes, "we can be racially different and we can see the world and experience the world differently", but we have to teach our children about the world they live in and prepare them for certain encounters and situations so that they have tools to assist them in their experiencing the world so it will be less damaging.
Click here to read the article in it's entirety.
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